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Is Good Advice The Number 1 Thing We Need?
No! We Need To Figure Things Out Ourselves
One of the most frustrating things I’ve found about therapy is that it’s not like a chat with a friend who happens to have a psychology qualification. Although I do want my friends to listen to me I’m also looking for good advice and that’s something my therapist simply does not give. She asks questions and guides the discussion sometimes, but at no point does she tell me what to do.
Sometimes I really hate this. I have been trying to release my trauma and fix my screwed up brain for years and not succeeded. If I were capable of doing it alone I already would have so why can’t she tell me?? I’m sure many of you will be saying, “it won’t work if you’re told what to do, you have to figure it out yourself.” Well, in the words of the fabulous Sigourney Weaver in one of my favourite movies, Galaxy Quest:
I have struggled for decades! Why can’t it just be easy!?! Trying to think rationally there are two good reasons. Firstly, I need to figure it out because if I don’t then the therapist won’t be helping me with the right thing. My trauma, and therefore my problems started in early…
