7 Ways To Take Your Power Back And Stop Being A Victim
This piece follows on from the one last week about fault vs responsibility. I passionately believe that if you accept that it’s your responsibility to fix the pain in your life that you take your power back. Whose fault the pain was is irrelevant. Until you do this, you will constantly be in a victim mentality.
So, let’s look at 7 ways to take your power back and stop being a victim.
1) Wipe The Words “Fault” and “Blame” From Your Vocabulary
While in blame mode, you focus on the trauma itself. By wallowing in “poor me” thoughts, you are not trying to fix your pain; you want someone else to take responsibility. This rarely works. Please believe me; you can fix yourself, take your power back and do it!
2) Accept Your Part In Your Trauma
You may not have been able to prevent the trauma from occurring, but how you choose to deal with it afterwards is under your control. You could need therapy, hashing it out with a trusted friend or family member, journalling, or even time.
You need to do whatever it takes to be able to heal. If you try something and it doesn’t work, try something else. Do something, anything besides sitting and stewing, feeling hard done by.
3) Distance Yourself From People Who Hurt You
Continuing to allow people to hurt you over and over again is another way of giving them power over you. If you can’t cut them out of your life completely, at least limit their access. You should also set boundaries to ensure they treat you as you deserve. If they cross these boundaries, give them a firm warning. If they cross them again, then leave. They’ll get the message eventually.
4) Try To Forgive
It may not always seem that way, but forgiveness is as much for you as the person you are forgiving. By forgiving the person who hurt you, you can release the anger you feel towards…